Posts Tagged ‘Amsterdam’

The intake.

Well, it took many, many months of waiting but I finally got to go to the VUMC in Amsterdam today for my intake meeting thing. I think I applied in like, July 2008 for this.

See, over here in the Netherlands they are very strict when it comes to diagnosis and treatment of people who have gender dysphoria. Rightfully so of course, there are many people who claim or think they have gender dysphoria but it’s not uncommon that those feelings are misplaced or stemming from other issues. They may even just be a homosexual whose only way of dealing with it is portraying themselves as feminine (I’m attracted to men, so I must be a girl, right?). Of course I’m generalizing it a bit there, but that’s basically what they try to evaluate after your intake: How likely is the chance you do in fact have gender dysphoria?

Right now the waiting list has become so long they did early preliminary intakes. So essentially the waiting list still isn’t over. They did this to predetermine who should be on the waiting list at all; eliminating the odd cases I mentioned above. In effect shortening the waiting list for everyone else waiting for the diagnostic phase. This process will happen next month when the VUMC ‘gender team’ has their meeting and starts deciding who stays and who doesn’t.

After that I will still have to wait another 3 to 6 months before I can even start the diagnostic phase, which in itself will take a minimum of 6 months. So the earliest I can start my hormone treatment will be about a year from now. So that’s kind of a bummer but at least progress is being made. Besides, I have no doubts about me going successfully going through the diagnostic phase and such. All I got to do is wait and it will happen, I believe truly in this fact.

So today was an important day, that I was extremely nervous about, but it all went down without a hitch and I could further reaffirm that I really don’t have anything to worry about. I just need to be patient is all.

tl;dr version: Intake done, more months of waiting to be done, I will succeed.

Yesterday’s therapy

Yesterday’s therapy went very well. It was all very positive and he even complimented me. :) I have to keep working on my life’ resume; good news is that he doesn’t mind if it turns out to be a book, he’ll read it regardless.

We talked about a variety of topics, including a little about voice training, which is something I really need to work on. I’ll have to see if I can find a speech therapist nearby that I can go to.

Didn’t get a chance to shop as timing was awkward an stores were closing so at least I didn’t spent a bunch of monies this time. :P

A few updates.

Tomorrow is my next appointment with my therapist, I have to be there at 3PM. He gave me some ‘homework’ last time, like he wanted me to write up my life’s resume. Well start it anyway, didn’t have to finish it yet, but damn, that kept me busy. I’m terrible with dates and my memory is just horrible so it’s not easy for me to write down things and figure out where they fit chronologically in my life.

Since I’ve gone full time I’ve had to face some odd things at times. Like the neighbor coming by with hs girlfriend at odd hours and going to my kid’s school yearly opening with approximately 700 other people, all kids and parents. Tough but I made it without a scar. :P

Life’s been rough in our home for a while financially speaking because we had been living on a single income for a few months and that wasn’t even enough to pay the bills so we started to dwindle deep into the red. We are back at two incomes now though so we should be able to get out of debt again eventually.

I have also been looking at possible educations that I can do, I found one a while ago but it wasn’t available yet, it just said “coming soon”. Well I got an email the other day that they finally started it so I’m gonna go apply. It’s an 18 month course for cosmetologist. It’s not the cheapest education around but I think it’ll be good for me, and it’s also a surefire way to get a job in the field later on.