I think I’m ready… I think I’m ready to let everyone know that I have decided to forgo genital surgery.
This was not an easy decision to make. I have been doubting it for years. From the start of my transition it was always automatically assumed that that would be my ultimate goal. To have gender reassignment surgery and that then I’d be completely female.
That logic is flawed however. It is making the same assumptions that too many people that are ignorant about this subject tend to make: That your gender is determined by your genital configuration. The smarter ones among us know that that is not true of course. Even chromosomes can vary too much per individual to use them as the determining factor. I believe it’s best not to dwell on those things too much. You are who you are regardless of those factors.
One of the main reasons I did initially plan to go for it was so I could be legally recognized as female. Which is very important to me. At this point in time you still have to undergo forced sterilisation by the means of invasive surgery just to be able to change your gender marker on official documents. As progressive as this country sometimes is, in some ways it is still lagging behind others when it comes to transgender rights.
Thankfully this issue should be resolved relatively soon. A legislative amendment has been presented to the government by involved parties and has already been approved. All I have to do now is wait for it to become official law. Considering the current state of our parliament that may take a while but I have faith that it shall come to pass in the near future.
Many – if not most – trans women choose to undergo surgery. The most obvious reason is that the dysphoria is just too great to stay confronted with their male physical characteristics. Hell, I considered doing it just for the sake of aesthetics and being able to wear a bikini without having to think twice!
Many may also feel that surgery is a vital part of their psychological transition. It helps them feel more complete; whole. For me that is not the case. I understand their choice and of course support them. However, I am not that dysphoric toward my genital configuration. I don’t feel as if it defines my gender identity. I completed my transition a long time ago.
I know I am a woman. I am not agender, bigender, or what-have-you. I am a woman. That is enough for me and it should be enough for everyone else. Yes, I have decided to keep my penis. I’m a chick with a dick and I like it that way. It is simply who I am.
- The T-Girl extraordinaire