Amorous Eyes

T-Girl Extraordinaire

Polyamory vs. Monogamy

Someone just asked me about polyamory. Here’s my (edited) response:

Polyamory can be a tricky thing and I often see people get into it for either the wrong reasons or not fully understanding the impact of it.

Polyamory, in its core, is loving more than a single person at any one time. This requires a lot of trust, respect, and communication from all sides. There’s also an added responsibility toward all partners involved.

I especially see young people (i.e. early 20s) abuse the term to get away with sleeping around. There is no love there. It’s just sex. Not that there’s anything wrong with that if you are open to that, but I’d like it if they’d call it for what it is. Either swinging, an open relationship, or similar. You can do some serious harm to a person by not being completely honest about your intentions.

That said, even if you are polyamorous in nature doesn’t mean you always need to have a secondary relationship in your life. Poly people can live out a happily monogamous life.

I’m all for monogamy. I see too many poly people with an elitists attitude condemn it or call it against human nature. (There’s a twist.) I cannot but disagree with that statement. Monogamy can be really fulfilling and not feel like you are “missing out”.

My boyfriend and I revised the parameters of our relationship a bit since that video I made a year ago. We’re still semi-poly but with clearer ‘rules’ and some restrictions. That, and we doubt that either of us will be able to handle a complete secondary relationship. We don’t even have the time for that so it would be a foolish thing to look for right now.

Again, I’m a huge fan of monogamy and feel that it gets a bad rep in large part due to young people rushing into relationships and even getting married before they hit 25. So yeah, statistics will tell you it doesn’t work. But statistics have to be taken into proper context to be fully understood.

As always, communication is key.

Posted on April 26, 2012 Leave a comment

Set lasers to “ouch”!

Had another laser session today. Sadly not the last time as I had hoped. At least it didn’t hurt as much as the previous session.

On the bright(er) side I will finally be getting my money back. Not from my health insurance but straight from the hospital.

When I was there last week I asked about it yet again and they said I should’ve already gotten the first payment. I showed them that I hadn’t received anything yet (yay for smartphones!) so some phone calls were made.

Apparently it was in fact deposited but on the wrong bank account! The one of the laser clinic no less. They said that they will fix this asap and that after paying for it myself for nearly one and a half years I will finally be getting what I am owed. Huzzah!

Posted on April 17, 2012 Leave a comment

More appointments at the hospital.

Had an appointment with the psychologist / sexologist at the hospital the other day. Which was nice but I also really wanted to see my endo but they canceled my appointment with him for that day like a week before and set a new one all the way in June!

I wasn’t happy about this and tried to move it up. This was not possible so I got an appointment with the assistant instead in a few weeks. Still a ways away but at least it isn’t June!

Posted on April 12, 2012 Leave a comment